{"id":1938,"date":"2025-07-22T14:51:52","date_gmt":"2025-07-22T14:51:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mallandmotto.com\/?p=1938"},"modified":"2025-07-22T14:51:53","modified_gmt":"2025-07-22T14:51:53","slug":"iliskileri-tuketen-6-davranisa-dikkat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mallandmotto.com\/index.php\/2025\/07\/22\/iliskileri-tuketen-6-davranisa-dikkat\/","title":{"rendered":"\u0130li\u015fkileri T\u00fcketen 6 Davran\u0131\u015fa Dikkat"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Uzman Klinik Psikolog Aycan Ko\u00e7, sosyal medyan\u0131n etkisinden suskunlu\u011fa, ele\u015ftiriden empati eksikli\u011fine kadar ili\u015fkileri y\u0131pratan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 s\u0131ralad\u0131; ba\u011f kurman\u0131n be\u011fenilmekten daha \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu vurgulad\u0131.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Uzman Klinik Psikolog Aycan Ko\u00e7<\/strong>, \u201cG\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde ne yaz\u0131k ki ikili ili\u015fkilerde her iki taraf da \u00e7o\u011funlukla yaln\u0131z hissediyor. \u0130li\u015fkilerde art\u0131k samimiyet de\u011fil, strateji belirleyici oluyor. \u0130nsanlar birine yakla\u015f\u0131rken dahi \u201cnas\u0131l g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyorum, yeterince ilgi \u00e7ekiyor muyum, kaybedersem nas\u0131l toparlar\u0131m?\u201d gibi hesaplarla hareket ediyor.\u00d6te yandan sosyal medyan\u0131n ikili ili\u015fkilerdeki y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 etkisi de g\u00f6z ard\u0131 edilemez. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ili\u015fkiler g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde art\u0131k sadece iki ki\u015fi aras\u0131nda ya\u015fanm\u0131yor; g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u00fck, be\u011feni ve onay aray\u0131\u015f\u0131 da s\u00fcrecin i\u00e7ine dahil olmu\u015f durumda. Bir hikayede etiketlenmemek, birlikte \u00e7ekilen foto\u011fraf\u0131n payla\u015f\u0131lmamas\u0131 ya da ge\u00e7 gelen bir mesaj bile, ili\u015fkinin kolayl\u0131kla derinden sars\u0131lmas\u0131na neden olabiliyor.\u201d diyor.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Ele\u015ftiriyi ileti\u015fim sanmak\u00a0<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Bir\u00e7ok ki\u015fi rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 dile getirirken, asl\u0131nda kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakini yarg\u0131l\u0131yor. \u201cBu davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n beni etkiledi\u201d demek yerine \u201cSen zaten hep b\u00f6ylesin\u201d c\u00fcmleleriyle konu\u015fmak, ileti\u015fimi \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm de\u011fil, sald\u0131r\u0131 haline getiriyor. Uzman Klinik Psikolog Aycan Ko\u00e7 \u201cEle\u015ftiri, duygu temelli bir fark\u0131ndal\u0131k i\u00e7ermedi\u011finde savunmaya neden olur. Partnerini s\u00fcrekli yetersiz g\u00f6ren bir yakla\u015f\u0131m, bir s\u00fcre sonra ili\u015fkiyi de de\u011fersizle\u015ftirir. \u0130leti\u015fim; su\u00e7lamak de\u011fil, payla\u015fmakt\u0131r\u201d diyor.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Susarak mesafe koymak<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Susmak her zaman sakinlik de\u011fil, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman uzakla\u015fmad\u0131r. \u201cKonu\u015facak bir \u015feyim yok\u201d, \u201cZaten anlam\u0131yorsun\u201d, \u201cNe fark edecek ki?\u201d Bu t\u00fcr c\u00fcmlelerin ard\u0131nda genellikle \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcmden de\u011fil, kopu\u015ftan beslenen bir tav\u0131r yatar. Konu\u015fulmayan her mesele, zamanla birikerek ili\u015fkiyi sessizce t\u00fcketir. \u0130li\u015fkiler, duygular\u0131n dola\u015f\u0131ma girebildi\u011fi kadar ya\u015far.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Partnerini toplum i\u00e7inde k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrmek<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Partnerini ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda alaya almak, ima yollu ele\u015ftirmek ya da k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemek ili\u015fkideki g\u00fcven zeminini zedeler. Daha da y\u0131prat\u0131c\u0131 olan ise bu davran\u0131\u015f sonras\u0131 gelen \u015fu c\u00fcmledir: \u201c\u00c7ok al\u0131ngans\u0131n, \u015faka yapt\u0131m.\u201d \u0130li\u015fkide ya\u015fanan k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131k de\u011fil, o k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131 dile getirince su\u00e7lanmak as\u0131l yaray\u0131 olu\u015fturur. Sayg\u0131, ili\u015fkide sevgi kadar onar\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>\u201cBen B\u00f6yleyim\u201d c\u00fcmlesiyle de\u011fi\u015fime diren\u00e7 g\u00f6stermek\u00a0<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cBeni b\u00f6yle kabul et\u201d c\u00fcmlesi, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman de\u011fi\u015fime diren\u00e7tir. Oysa ili\u015fki, iki taraf\u0131n da birlikte geli\u015fmesiyle g\u00fc\u00e7lenir. Sabit kalan bir kimlik yap\u0131s\u0131, zamanla ili\u015fkiyi esnetilemeyen bir alana d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcr. Ve esnemeyen her yap\u0131, ilk sars\u0131nt\u0131da k\u0131r\u0131l\u0131r.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Duygular\u0131n ad\u0131n\u0131 koymadan anla\u015f\u0131lmay\u0131 beklemek\u00a0<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cBen s\u00f6ylemeden anlamal\u0131\u201d, \u201cSeviyorsa hisseder\u201d Bu t\u00fcr d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceler, duygusal beklentiyi romantize ederken ileti\u015fimi yok sayar. Oysa ifade edilmeyen her duygu, zamanla k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. \u0130li\u015fkiler, sezgilerle de\u011fil, a\u00e7\u0131kl\u0131kla g\u00fc\u00e7lenir.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Dijital tuza\u011fa d\u00fc\u015fmek!<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Uzman Klinik Psikolog Aycan Ko\u00e7 \u201cSosyal medya, yaln\u0131zca tan\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 kolayla\u015ft\u0131rmad\u0131; ba\u011f kurman\u0131n de\u011ferini de azaltt\u0131. Art\u0131k biriyle sorun ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm aramak yerine, \u201cyerine koyulabilecek ba\u015fka biri\u201d fikri devreye giriyor. \u0130li\u015fkiler derinle\u015fmeden t\u00fcketiliyor, bir \u2018t\u0131kan\u0131kl\u0131k\u2019 an\u0131nda vazge\u00e7mek, beklemekten daha kolay geliyor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc dijital \u00e7a\u011fda herkes ula\u015f\u0131labilir ama kimse vazge\u00e7ilmez de\u011filmi\u015f gibi bir alg\u0131 hakim. \u00d6te yandan, g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u00fck ve be\u011fenilme iste\u011finin ili\u015fkilerin \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7mesiyle; bir hikayede etiketlenmemek, birlikte \u00e7ekilen foto\u011fraf\u0131n payla\u015f\u0131lmamas\u0131 ya da ge\u00e7 gelen bir mesaj bile, ili\u015fkinin kolayl\u0131kla derinden sars\u0131lmas\u0131na neden olabiliyor. Oysa ili\u015fki, d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan nas\u0131l g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnden \u00e7ok, i\u00e7eride nas\u0131l hissedildi\u011fiyle ya\u015fan\u0131r. Ba\u011f, be\u011feniyle de\u011fil, g\u00fcvenle kurulur\u201d diyor.&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Uzman Klinik Psikolog Aycan Ko\u00e7, sosyal medyan\u0131n etkisinden suskunlu\u011fa, ele\u015ftiriden empati eksikli\u011fine kadar ili\u015fkileri y\u0131pratan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 s\u0131ralad\u0131; ba\u011f kurman\u0131n be\u011fenilmekten daha \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu vurgulad\u0131. 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